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What's great about you?

Buy yourself a book to use as a daily journal. Decorate it with something that makes you feel good.  I have a picture of my very special pet Jeffwee on the front page of mine.. Each time I look at him, I get lovely warm feelings...  

Ask yourself:

What is or are your greatest accomplishment/s?  It can be anything from learning to drive to creating  your own business..it can be small or grand.. whatever it is, it was something you strove to do, dreamed of and  DID IT.  Don't compare  yourself to others.. only to how you were the day before..WRITE THEM DOWN

What is/are your special talent/s.  I consider writing to be one of mine, my friend Lesley has an ability to remember infinite details about people, my brother is a fantastic mimic, my father is a crossword genius and my mother is a wonderful cook.. Some people have a genius for spotting things that don't fit.. they make great proof readers!.. What is YOUR talent?  WRITE THEM DOWN

What 10 positive adjectives best describe you?  Are  you friendly, honest, optimistic, generous..?  flirtatious, loving, intellectual ? WRITE THEM DOWN.  If you keep coming up with negative adjectives, ask yourself what is the opposite, and would that be a good description of how you would like to be. Ask friends if you are stuck.  And if people see good in you that you don't see, learn from it.. they are special people able to see through your self deprecating barriers.  Generally, it's useful to remember that if YOU don't like YOU, how can you possibly expect someone else to?   

What would you like to be said of you on your deathbed?  No one wants to be remembered as a black cloud person.. you know the kind of people I mean.. each time they come towards you, you sense the weight of their problems and want to withdraw because you don't want to be affected.   Charming people emit rays of sunshine to the world around them... What do you think people will remember about you?  If its not too great, change it... and then begin to work towards it..WRITE IT DOWN

How are you when you are at your best and most flirtatious?

When you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and as you take in a deep deep breath, smile your biggest smile, stand up straight and exhale with a releasing sigh. Then ask yourself how you are at your best.  Check out the stuff you've written in your diary..  Remember times when you excelled because you were doing YOU.  Notice where in your body the feelings are... Place your hand there and send the feelings round your body.. notice how they intensify..  Keep doing it. No one can see you. Babies get programmed this way and it works!  WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU NOTICE.

Create an Attraction Plan for the person you want to attract

When you are happy with who YOU are, and only then, make a long list of the features you want in someone you have a relationship with Start with the personality features like 'kind' and then ask yourself 'what do I mean by kind'. BE SPECIFIC.  Good examples are 'he'll love to spend hours talking about love and relationship' or 'she'll love that I touch her whenever I pass her by and she'll still flirt with me when we're old!"   Rate the features in terms of importance - e.g. if your ideal person absolutely must have a sense of humor about life, give it 10. If you would like someone to be caring,  but its not a major thing, give it a lower mark.

Begin to imagine this special person and how he or she is. Look at it every day and keep adding to it.  Unconsciously you will be drawn to these people. Remember that every new person you connect with is not just a potential partner they could become a good friend, be a business link or better still know someone who [knows someone who] is just right for you. Keep your mind and your options OPEN. If you need help in doing this, maybe I can help you with private coaching. e-mail me for your fr*e copy of my e-book The Hero's Journey - your Guide to Love and Life or check out how I can teach you to flirt from the inside, become more confident use flirting as the first step to attract love into your life. Lots more info here >> one to one and telephone flirt and relationship coaching with Peta Heskell, The Original Flirt Coach