Words from a wise man - Anton Raps

A man sitting at a bar sees a beautiful woman sitting alone, and having just read some books on ‘meeting women’ he approaches her and is invited to join her for a chat. He talks endlessly about himself for over an hour, then he remembers something from the book. “Oh do excuse me” he says, “I’ve been talking for so long, perhaps you would like to tell me something about yourself…what do you think about me?”

Well at least he was talking, which is often something I notice many men and women seem to find difficult to do when they meet members of the opposite sex for the first time. In fact just getting to meet them would seem to present problems for some. I’m not here to tell you much, but the little I do consider worthwhile I’d like to share with you.

If you’re looking for a coach, or some guidance, I’d choose a woman. Most excellent strategists will tell you it’s important to gather the best information about the ‘challenge’ you might face. Who better than a member of the intuitive sex? Anyway, can you really trust guy’s to know, or to have done all the things they claim, come on now, it’s like the ‘anglers story’ “it was this big”.  Sure it was.

Now if you were rich and/or famous would meeting a someone be any different? Just stop and think for a moment, think of something that, if it were ‘different’, would make ‘flirting’ ‘easy-peasey’. Who do you possibly wish you were, or were ‘like’, some other person, who you think makes meeting new friends seem simple. Really think about this for a while. Hey, what about a really ‘wow’ car, would that seem useful? Better job, new hairstyle, change of shape, fashion or something?

Ever watch those ‘sci-fi’ movies with ‘shape-shifters’, David Icke thinks they are already here, Lizards if you don’t mind, so best be careful ‘out there’. Joking aside, except you David, if you could ‘shape-shift’ would you change anything, or stay just as you are? I might seem like I’m playing here but I’m not, as you’ll see. I just want you to answer these questions with total honesty for yourself, and keep them to yourself.

So what’s my point? Well it’s simply this. If you even had one ‘positive’ answer then there is an ‘illusion’ operating in your thinking and it’s not helping you. If your concept of you, as you are, ‘warts and all’, is not sufficient for you to believe you can find ‘the right person’ then you really are working at a disadvantage. At least unless you can find some ‘optional extras’ you can acquire or you’re a shape-shifting Lizard (which I doubt, or you wouldn’t be reading this in the first place).

Ladies and Gentlemen, we all live with a sort of paradox governing our behavior. In the most respectful way I’d like to point out that my dog doesn’t have any problems ‘getting a date’, the rest of the animal kingdom sort of has all this stuff well worked out. But they don’t have ‘symbols’ to deal with, those things that ‘stand for’ something they, in themselves, are NOT. 

We scurry around deciding all sorts of things about each other based on ‘symbols’, material things, styles, accents, colour and whatever you care to think of. This is just one part of the problem, we also have ‘language’ and can therefore talk to others and ourselves. Language allows us to make up ‘rules’ about things, some are useful and others useless, some written and a whole wad of ‘un-written’ stuff. So on one hand we have our inherent desires to further our species by finding a member partner, and a set of rules about all the ‘stuff’, useful or otherwise, we ‘should’ be thinking about? Both of these factors are in the same brain, so do you see the paradox?

There is no really practical way to sort these out other than to realise they are what they are. One is a natural impulse the other a bunch of ideas, and ideas are not ‘real’ even if they sometimes ‘feel’ like they are. So working with someone who knows about this paradox is about all you can do.

Over the years I have spent thousands of hour figuring out what I can to be able to help people in a whole number of ways, so when Peta gave me an opportunity to communicate with people visiting her website. I never miss a chance to do something that could lead to more people having more fun for no particular reason. 

The reason I spoke to Peta is that she thinks much the same way I do, so my reason became twofold, I could not only have a few words but I could tell people to go see Peta. So go see Peta. If you go see Peta I’m sure she will present you with a whole new way of looking at this part of your life, and make it the fun it should be. 

Or you could just trust the advertising companies and their ‘devices’, now they really want to tell you the truth and help don’t they? You could ask your fiends, or go to a fortuneteller or something, if you thought that might work? Anyway, I wish you well whatever you choose, if the advice I’ve given really works to get you to make a powerful change in your life then I’m delighted for you.

So, I’ve said my piece and I’m satisfied, are you?