Our list of top flirting tips for guys begins with female flirting signals. Everyone wants to know if their flirting is working and if you can’t pick up those signals, how will you know that a woman is attracted to you and whether you should continue flirting ? Being aware of these signals and what they mean is surefire way to give you the confidence to continue flirting and take the next step to getting a date or more.

Female Flirting Signals before first contact

  1. Is she smiling and laughing. Often women who are feeling flirty will hang out with their friends and laugh, but as she does she’s also gonna be sneaking a peek at you. If you see laughing and peeking at the same time, you’ve got a good indicator that your flirting is working.
  2. Is she assessing you?  To get this flirting signal, you’ve gotta  be on the ball.   If she does the up and down glance, it’s pretty certain she’s interested.  Watch her eyes. When women check out guys all over, from head to toe and stop in the middle, they’re assessing whether you’re flirting potential. That means at least that she thinks it’s worth taking a deeper look at you.  If she’s doing this then it’s pretty obvious she’s into you for starters.
  3. Is she maintaining prolonged eye contact or just staring at you. Check you’ve not got egg on your shirt or a fly undone [that's also a good reason to stare!!!].  Prolonged eye contact is a sure flirting sign.
  4. Is she preening?  When a woman is interested she automatically starts preening. This might be rearranging her hair, putting on more lipstick or smoothing her skirt or brushing her arms.  Any action where she starts touching herself means she’s putting on a show for you. Yes she’s flirting with YOU!

Approaching someone is scary, if you’re a little lacking in confidence. You might think those guys who go up to every woman and flirt wildly are lucky.  Their secret is that they don’t care!  They might like her, but they say to themselves, if she says no that’s the worst that can happen and it means I can concentrate on someone who MIGHT like me!!!  So let go of your concern and remember there are lots of other girls out there waiting to flirt with you.  The guy who doesn’t take the shot never hits the target!

Flirting Signals after the first contact

If she’s doing any of these, its a further sign that your flirting is working and she is interested in flirting further with you.


  1. Now you’ve got to talk to her, check out her body language signals.  A sure sign that she’s interested is that she opens her body out.  She might uncross her legs, or lean closer or open her arms wide or lift up her chest or bend forward so you can see her cleavage or even turn her butt to you. At this stage you can take this flirting signal as an indicator that she does want to go further. Don’t rush in but take it slow and let her know you’re interseted to.  A light touch or moving closer to her will send her a return flirting signal and so the dance begins.
  2. If she’s really hot for you, she’ll probably start to stroke her body.  Maybe her arms or her neck [a sensitive spot for women that turns them on].  If she touches her thighs then maybe it’s a signal that she’s up for more than just a drink or a chat.  Always take these flirting signals as signs not as absolute certainties.  You can risk more touching at this stage, perhaps an arm or back stroke or more intimate a flirting cheek touch.  See how she reacts and act accordingly. Always be ready to apologize and pull back in case she wants to go slower. Sometimes when she feels hot she gets scared and might want to slow down. Be respectful and your flirting will be successful.

  3. Women have all kinds of flirting tricks that they do unconsciously.  If you notice her getting closer or lowering her voice then keep on going.  When she lowers her voice it’s an unconscious flirting signal that says ‘come closer’.
  4. Is she looking into your eyes and at your face constantly?  Coupled with this do you notice the ultimate flirting signal of licking her lips, moving closer to you and slightly parting the lips.  This is a possible sign that she wants you to kiss her.
    Take it slow, move in as you watch her eyes.. and look out for the withdraw flirting signal when she narrows her eyes and puts her chin down. This says ‘stop, I’m not ready, yet’.  Don’t worry, women’s flirting signals often betray what they want deep down, but are afraid to give in to for fear of being considered cheap.  Take it slow.. and you’ll get to base!

The secret of deciphering flirting signals is to pay close attention at all times. Notice her every move. Not only will this make her feel wanted, but it will help to ensure that you don’t make too many unwanted moves. Remember  that flirting is a game, and you may win or you may lose. But if you do lose, the next flirting opportunity is always round the corner.