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Frequently Asked Questions

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"The purpose of a trainer is NOT to tell you what you can read in a book, but to give you an experience"  Michael Breen

If you want techniques and tips these are available on this site.  If you want to know how to make anyone fall in love with you, there ARE books that claim they can do that for you. This course is NOT an information weekend or a miracle 'cure'. 

Some of the stuff covered in the course is 'common-sense'.  One participant, a hospital consultant came on the course to loosen up.  He learned by EXPERIENCE that you can make people feel good by smiling at them and interacting on an ad-hoc basis.   Why does a 55 year old married man need to come on a course to learn that?  The answer is simple. 

Many of us need to EXPERIENCE the results of an action before we can actually incorporate it into our everyday way of doing.  People learn by doing, not by rote.    Common sense it might be - but how many people DO go out and talk to strangers, smile and chat to cashiers in shops and generally make everyone around them feel good. It's NOT something we learn in school.   

Here are some answers to frequently asked questions

What do we do on a flirting weekend or a one day course?
You will find yourself seated in a room of no more than 50 people on a weekend course and up to 70 on a one-day.  Peta Heskell will be your course facilitator and may invite guest facilitators to run specific sessions such as humour, seduction, dancing and movement where appropriate.   

There will be a group of assistants who are there to join in the experience and to help you if you need help. Some of them have done the course before have had such a good time they want to return and help you have an equally good time.   Many of them are qualified in specific psychology skills and some of them are there because they are naturally flirtatious people wh add to the richness of the experience.   One thing is definite, we are ALL of us, trainer, assistants and participants learning from each other.

We will begin with explaining how the course works, what you can expect and setting you up with some things that you may hope to go away with.  You will have an opportunity to have your say as to what you want.

On the weekends you will receive a workbook with motivating quotes,  space for your thoughts and observations and some 'flirtivities' to help you practise your newly awakened skills.   You are not encouraged to take lots of notes about what is said, as this is an active workshop not a lecture on how to flirt. You are encouraged to make notes on what you learned about yourself, things that seemed important to you, how you felt during the explorations, what you learned from other people,  or the state of your mood in general as well thoughts about other people and the course.

The trainer will spend some time talking to the group, you will be encouraged to contribute feedback and ideas[voluntarily] .  Learning is facilitated via the trainer talks,  explorations done on your own, exercises done in groups of two or 3 or sometimes 5 and full group exercises.  Learning is also taking place during the breaks as you interact with other people and out in the street when you do your assignments [see later]  After most exercises you will have an opportunity feedback on what you learned and how it went for you.  Most of the exercises are designed to give you different types of learning at the same time.  

You will be able to ask questions at any time which will either be answered there and then or if it is coming up later, you will be asked to hang on as it is being covered and if it is not appropriate to cover in the group,  you will be told so and someone will be assigned to discuss it with you in a break.

If you feel uncomfortable, there are assistants who are there specifically to work with you individually.  Many of them are trainers or have experience in facilitating people.   When you talk to them you may find yourself developing an affinity to specific people.  Be OK about asking them for help.

There will be a movement session [unless circumstances are such that it is not appropriate] which will involve some kind of latin-american dancing, or generalized movement and will generally involve contact with another person.

You will be given assignments to do in the lunch hours and sometimes in the evening.  They are not written, but activities that can be easily done in a social setting.

What topics are covered on this course?

This is not just a course where you learn one thing after another in school.  It is an EXPERIENCE.  You will learn from just being there, interacting with the many different people and participating in the explorations and exercises.   You will be learning many things on many levels some of which will not be apparent to you until later.  We don't like to divide the course into specific learning topics but some of the things that you will explore are learning to be more acute about picking up and recognizing signals from other people. Becoming aware of your own signals and behavior.  Learning to listen and to ask good questions.  Working with personal space.  Sexuality.  How to take rejection in your stride. The power of compliments and much more. 

What are the times of the course?

The course usually begins at 9.30 am or 10.00 am and will finish at 5.30 pm or 6.00 pm.   This is the same on both days if it is a weekend course and one the one day course.    Courses that take place in Amsterdam may begin at 10.30 am on Sunday as it's such a fun city, people tend to go out and party on Saturday night, so we allow an extra half hour 'get-over- the- night- before period' !!!!!

There is usually 1 hour and 15 minutes for lunch and two x 20 minute breaks for refreshments in the morning and afternoon.    You are free to move around and come and go.. after all you are adults! 

At the end of the last day of the course, provision is made to accommodate us in a local bar.  Most participants generally want to go and chill out and talk to their new friends and generally have a flirtingly good time.  If you want to join in make sure you cater for this when making your return travel arrangements.  Generally people hang out for an hour or two and sometimes longer if they are having fun.. which they generally are!!!

Is it for straight people only?

No, because flirting as we define it goes across the board. Where there are gay people attending the course facilitator will make every effort to put the learning in a general context.   This is a universal skill that we all need to learn

Is this a dating agency?

No. The aim of this course is not to pair you off with fellow participants although this occasionally happens!  It is more likely that you will, as have many people who attended, make long lasting new friends and expand your social circle, which in turn can lead to many exciting opportunities!!

What sort of age groups?

The age groups vary from people in their late twenties to those in their fifties and occasionally older. The beauty of this course is that by mixing with people of all different ages, you will expand your horizons and learn much about how other people function. This is a core skill of flirting as we at the Academy define it.  That said, the most common age group is the thirties and forties.

What kind of people come on these courses?

People who know that there is more to be gotten from their life.   People who have attended our courses include  doctors, dentists, lawyers, manual workers, housewives, artists, musicians, film-makers, corporate trainers, bankers, journalists, social workers, nurses, hypnotherapists, workshop facilitators, accountants, entrepreneurs, dancers, clerks, students, managers, local government officers etc etc. You name a profession and  we've had them on this course.  

What is the agenda?

Some people feel comfortable when they know exactly what is happening and at what time.  When you can look at an agenda and say 'aha, I know now how it works' or 'that's easy'.  The idea is that you get to do things you wouldn't normally do or feel challenged to do.   Learning occurs when you take risks, do things differently and step out of your comfort  zone.  There is no set agenda but for an idea of what you do on the course see the questions above 'what happens on the course' and 'what do we cover on the course'

What's included in the course fee?

Tuition, playbooks and tea/coffee/water in the breaks.  You are also entitled to join the flirting academy private internet list only open to people who have attended the course.  Accommodation and lunch are NOT included but you will be given guidance to local eating places from sandwich bars to restaurants.

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