How Flirty Are YOU?
You think flirting is
Manipulative, silly and false (a)
Connecting with others in a playful way. A great way to meet people (b)
Something you have to do to get a man (c)
A real challenge. I find it really difficult to flirt (d)
How do you relate to men and women?
Men are only after one thing and I’m not going to give them the opportunity to take advantage of me(a)
I get on better with women than men (d)
It’s easy to pull when you’ve got what they want – sex (c )
I love meeting both men and women. The more the merrier. They are so interesting and you never know who they might know? (b)
When it comes to finding a man you think…
I sometimes think I’ll never find a man. All the good ones are taken (d)
I know I can pull a man whenever I want. I have frequent one-night stands. (c)
I believe that there is someone out there for me I just have to meet enough people to find him. (b)
I don’t see why I should have to flirt to find a man. (a)
What’s your communication style?
When you are communicating with other people do you?
Notice the differences in their speech patterns, language and body language and adjust naturally (b)
Spend much more time listening than talking and then feel disappointed that you don’t seem to have said much (d)
Chat up the good looking men and tell the nerds to naff off (c )
Really love chatting with the girls but find men quite difficult to talk to. They are only interested in talking about sports, drinking, sex and their achievements. (a)
What kind of conversationalist are you?
You are chatting with someone you’ve just met and quite fancy and the conversation dries up. What do you do?
Make an excuse and leave. If the person can’t think of anything to ask you then you are obviously not interesting enough. (a)
Make sexual innuendoes or tell a sexy joke. You’ve got a whole repertoire of them. (c)
Ask exploratory and friendly questions about something the person has mentioned in the conversation so far or alternatively, if the conversation dries up very early on, tell them a little about something really exciting or interesting you have done. (b)
Say nothing it’s polite to let the other person talk. (d)
How proactive are you?
At a party or ‘do’ you notice someone you really fancy. What do you do?
Wait until everyone has sat down and then take the last place. You don’t want to look ‘obvious’, its so unappealing.(d)
Walk up to the person and whisper in their ear ‘You really do it for me’ or some similarly suggestive phrase. (c)
Look at the person, smile and move towards them, keeping regular eye contact then just say something like ‘Hi’ or ‘You look like someone I’d like to chat to’ or pay them a compliment. (b)
Sit as far away from the person as possible, chat freely to the woman next to you and make sure not to catch their eye. If they’re interested they should make the first move (a)
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Approaching people
Do you
Often initiate conversations with people in supermarkets, bus queues, on the train, at work, at the gym (b)
Wonder why people nowadays are so unfriendly (a)
Wish you could fade into the background and feel uncomfortable in close proximity to others or in crowds. (d)
Find it easy to flatter men but rarely pay personal compliments to women, they might think you are odd. (c)
Scoring
Mostly a’s. You don’t flirt and you are cynical about the whole idea of flirting. You may have a jaded view of the world and may spend time dwelling on the negative side of things. You probably have trouble making new friends and don’t really think of yourself as a ‘people person’. You would benefit by learning to be more playful and curious about people in general. You would gain from the flirting weekend a chance to access the playful side of yourself and discover how flirting can work to your good.
Mostly d’s. You might be shy and you will more than likely be very apprehensive about initiating conversations. Your self-esteem could do with a boost. You may be put upon by others and constantly worry about what others think of you. You prefer to be in safe situations. You would benefit by learning how to boost your confidence and ability to enjoy being with people. On the flirting weekend you will find yourself trying out new behaviours in a safe environment. You will be able to take steps out of your comfort zone and enjoy the experience.
Mostly c’s. You are more of a sexual flirt. You believe flirting is a means to attracting a man. You either find it easy to use all the flirting ‘techniques’ batting your eyelids, talking in low tones, using you body to attract or you are very direct in approaching men. It is likely that you find it difficult to sustain long term relationships because you enjoy the conquest and tend to dwell more on the physical than on the personal side of people. You may find that a flirting weekend would enable you to explore your behaviour with both men and women and learn to relate to them on a personal rather than sexual basis. If you are looking for a long term relationship, you would benefit by learning to flirt not for just sex but also for the enjoyment of getting to know people.
Mostly b’s. You are a natural and wonderful flirt. You know that flirting is about feeling good about yourself, connecting with others, letting go of the outcome and enjoying the experience. You believe that meeting people is an opportunity to explore and expand your life and that you will always be able to draw to you those people that you need at the right time in your life. You are probably very popular and have a wide circle of friends of all ages, sexes and types. The concepts of flirting weekend are derived from models of flirts like yourself.
