Article - a letter from peta

I recently sent out a Christmas letter documenting what I'd done during the year. It started as an idea to connect and ended up with me reviewing my year. What a joy it was to go through that process and discover how many amazing things had been in my life and generated by me and drawn to me. What I learned from my mentor, friend and teacher, Joseph Riggio, is that when I adopt a certain way of being, the whole focus of my life changes in accordance with that and great stuff begins to come towards me...

I discovered it is possible to reframe everything as a great experience. I once told a friend who had 'secrets' from the past and had learned 'not to go there' that the point was not to 'not go there' but to allow whatever it is to take its revered place in the annals of their history and to be aware of it fondly only for its positive action rather than negative connotations. Our past is after all part of what makes us who we are today.

I also remembered those words from Marianne Williamson that are so often attributed to Nelson Mandela.. These words always remind me that we all have all we need inside, we just have to shine it out.

We are all meant to shine as children do
We were born to make manifest the glory within us
It is not in someone of us, it is in everyone
And, as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

And I wrote joyously of my triumphs over the year, of the good things that just sailed in and those that could have appeared less desirable and how they all worked out and had some value to me.

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I received back some lovely comments from people. One friend sent me a catalogue of her life during the last year. She'd done so much and yet she almost didn't realise how wonderful it had been. She said

"It's good to look back and realise what you've achieved. Your first email made me sit down and do just that and instead of feeling grumpy and sorry for myself because of stuff that hadn't happened in my life I was able to smile a bit and think - well at least I was out there getting on with it!"

A girlfriend who has had some challenges this year and has had to pull out of some of her work wrote to me

"My 2000 has been one of great change.......challenging, emotional, scarey at the time but now on reflection, I look back at pretty phenomenal times and I'm left with a knowing that the past 12 months have been truly significant......exciting stuff to be taking with me into 2001 !!"

Isn't it amazing how we can choose to focus one way or another. One way is the way of life happens, what have we learned and what's in store. It is the way of seeing the beauty of life's rich patterns and our power to generate and attract all that we need. It is the power of letting go of stuff and letting it be there, and of course finding ourselves moving towards something... something wonderful that's our unique destiny.

I am not just looking back at the end of the year and saying, I see now how that was of benefit to me.

I'm saying we are able to look now and realise whatever is happening is OK. It's all part of the process of life working out. When we know how we want our life to be, and have an intent for our place in the world... something grand and wide and expansive...then it really is OK.

As Richard Bandler, one of my teachers says 'They say - someday you'll look back at it and laugh'. I say 'why not laugh at it NOW!'

So, as you consider the triumphs of your year, how does that feel... are there moments in there when you absolutely know you were simply at yoor best? I am sure there are... and when you find them, re-member them and know that more is to come... sweetly, rapidly, flowingly and all envelopingly...and who cares about the other way, like this... it's just not there...

mmmmm
happy holidays, happy life and big smiles
from peta xxxx

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