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Dec ends
Christmas is certainly coming early
for some and maybe for some it's their first experience of adult
fun. Apparently Mattel the toymakers have produced a vibrating
version of Harry Potter's broomstick. Mothers all over are
wondering why their daughters are playing for hours and hours on their
broomsticks and why 17 year olds are badgering their younger sisters for
a go!!! That made me laugh out loud.
September leaves
Regular sex sessions keep old
people young [indeed they do and I should know, I'm almost forty-ten!] ,
according to new research.
Older people who have sex regularly are in better physical and mental
health than their less amorous counterparts.
Research to be published soon will confirm that regular sex is closely
linked with wellbeing among the over-fifties
It will also suggest that older women remain much keener on sex than
theirmale counterparts.
Dr Merryn Gott of Sheffield University, who carried out the study, told
the Observer: "Self-esteem is better among older people who have
sex.
"Body image is better, emotional wellbeing is greater and a feeling
of togetherness exists which can be absent in others."
Preliminary details of the research - into married couples with an
average age of 67 - were released at a meeting of the British Society of
Gerontology.
*Sex life story sent by Ananova
June's snippets
Mature
women are tops - YES!!!
Are
you a glamorous over 40? Great news if you are! A survey has
found that men are more likely to choose a great looking older gal over
a plain looking younger woman.
"You'd think that men would always go for 20-year-olds, but they don't," said Dr George Fieldman, of Buckinghamshire Chilterns University College.
"Men prefer attractiveness over youthfulness when selecting a long-term partner," he told the Daily Mail.
Dr
Fieldman and his team carried out experiments by showing men
different pix of attractive and not so attractive women of all
ages. An overwhelming number of men, including guys in their early 20s,
chose attractive older woman aged from mid to late 40s over 'plain
Janes' of their own age.
Fieldman has some theories on why this is the case. "The interesting thing is that if men were trying to spread their genes as widely as possible they would go for partners who could bear the maximum number of children.
"The fact that they don't suggests they go for beautiful women as a subconscious strategy to have beautiful children, even if it is not as many. Beautiful children, of course, will be more likely to spread their genes more easily."
This might explain successful toy-boy/older woman relationships such as Ralph
Fiennes, 38 whose partner Francesca Annis is 56. So, ladies, keep
yourself in shape, make sure to smile and make the most of your
beauty... and who knows.. a toy boy could find his way into your
Christmas stockings..or even further!
The
smell of love is in the air
It's
official - women like men who smell right. No, guys, don't
start drowning yourself in ritzy aftershave - in fact you might do well
to throw it all away because a new survey says that your genuine smell
will be more likely to draw to wards you the perfect woman for
you.
Professor
Rachel Herz studied 231 heterosexual college students and found that
women can literally smell the right man for them. According to
Herz who presented her findings at lthe recent American Psychological
Society's annual conference, "Body smell is linked to a person's
immunological make-up," Apparently women sniffed out guy's
whose antibodies were genetically opposite to their own, thus ensuring
the greatest chance of producing healthy kids.
Even
if you aren't planning a family, these strong primitive drivers are
still predominant in deciding who we are drawn to.
Men,apparently
don't give much of a monkey's about women's odour and they aren't
particularly bothered about status or ambition It's looks that
light their fires.Professor Adam Brown of Bonaventure University
reported that "high eyebrows" on a woman were rated highly
attractive. Women with low eyebrows were rated least attractive.
Any
student of body language will know that raising eyebrows is a signal
that a woman is interested which seems to say that men are most
interested in women that are interested in them.
In
ancient times, men definitely needed to be able to read signals as
finding a mate often involved fighting off rivals and too much fighting
doesn't leave much energy for shagging!
Apparently
men are more interested in sex appeal than 'attractiveness' which is why
they are more likely to go for those rounded buttocked women instead of
Ali McBeal boybummers. AND the great news is that personality
rated even higher than sex appeal. I've always known men are
sensible souls at heart. Women also went for
personality. "A pleasant disposition," Herz said, matters most
to both sexes when it comes to mate selection.
May's Sex News and Thoughts
Make
my
day!
May,
apparently, has been designated as National Masturbation Month and
sponsored masturbation events have been organised in the US with people
sponsoring their friends per minute spent wanking.
Quite how the event is monitored, or if it is just a trust thing
I don't know.
Isn't
it a clever ruse. It amuses me greatly that you can designate
months, days for virtually anything you want to bring to the public
notice and give credibility to it.
You have to have some good PR but it's relatively easy to do. It
makes people think and it publicises your product.
A
film company I know are doing a 'National Get Over It Day' on May 29th.
I've been invited to attend the event and give out hints on flirting or
flirt coaching.
All
these days are great commercial opportunities, and many of them are
great awareness raising events too, even if they weren't planned to be
so. We all have
to engage in commerce whether we supply or purchase but isn't it nice
when you get something extra along with the advertising - like
information or suggestions to be more free!
It's
good that people are bringing masturbation into the open and I for one
would like to be able to and be with people who can talk about it even
more openly. It's
silly that it should be taboo. Probably
because anything that we can associate with sexual arousal is taboo as
we are have all probably in some way or another in various situations
felt sexual arousal around things we 'shouldn't feel sexy about'
That's just a rule.
RULES
AND REGULATIONS - Which toxic rules affect you?
We
get so many many rules handed to us and imprinted on us throughout our
lives. Some we reject and some we take on unconsciously without
question. Some are good for us 'look before you cross the road' and 'be
kind to animals and other people' are good rules they ensure our safety
and promote niceness in the world.
There
are other rules that are plain and simply TOXIC. They should have been
burned at the stake and THEN hung drawn and quartered instead of those
poor old witches who were often just people with psychic and healing
powers!! So there!
THink
of all the rules you live to and which ones stop you being yourself and
having more fun.
Do
you have the 'women shouldn't show they like someone or else they might
lose interest'' rule
Perhaps
you live by the 'if she rejects me I'll never recover' rule.
These
are toxic rules and you need to do something to eliminate them from your
life.
What
rules would you want to have instead. What rules might make your life
more fun, and easier. Perhaps
you could say, 'If someone rejects me, I'm going to learn something' or
'Rejection is one No closer to Yes!'.
Think about it and while you are, unconsciously letting that sink
in.. here's the sex news to divert and amuse you..
"Bum-clenching beats
depression"
A self-help book claims clenching your bum 100 times a day will cure
depression! The book, 'Goodbye Depression' by Hiroyuki Nishigaki, suggests the
action will lift low spirits.
t also says pulling in the tummy button 100 times helps.
I'm
trying it as I type this in!!!
The book has drawn mixed reviews.
One man from Cleveland, US, said: "This book itself is the best cure
for depression I've ever found - if the subject matter itself doesn't
make you laugh, I don't know what will."
But the author says: "I think constricting the anus 100 times and
denting the navel 100 times in succession every day is effective. You
can do so at a boring meeting or in a subway."
He adds: "I have known a 70-year-old man who has practised it for 20
years. As a result, he has a good complexion and has grown 20 years
younger.
"His eyes sparkle. He is full of vigour, happiness and joy. He has
neither complained nor borne a grudge under any circumstance."
Thanks
to Geraint for that one
Virtual
Porn Star
This
one just had to come [ smile ]. As playstation addicts [men
and boys] continue to cream their jeans over Lara Croft [a virtual
character - i.e. she's just a computer creation] and women are having
plastic surgery to LOOK like Lara Croft what next? An
interactive sexy character so that they can get closer to the real
thing. They're getting it with a new porn character that
comes by their inserting something iinto their playstations. er
um.
They
can interact with her from any angle..oooh them mind boggles! Is
the playstation going to have an interactive orifice I wonder? If
not now, it's coming! For sure!
Bunny Luv has been developed as a virtual sex simulator for the Xbox video game system, which will be launched by Microsoft later this year.
Pixis Interactive Inc, which developed the character, said Microsoft were not pleased with their innovation. The game features what Pixis calls Touch Feel User Interface (TFUI).
It allows for full interactivity with a virtual actress from any angle and position from the first person point of view. It also features exclusive footage, a photo gallery and interactive movie clips.
Cheating
- is it good for us? What makes us cheat?
It had
to come. I've heard that often scientists get a notion in their
heads and work to uncover the evidence to prove it. So, all those
philandering Italian men, and I'm sure psychologists are no exception,
have now got a ready made reason to stray from the marital bed.
Because, dontcha see, psychologists have proved that men who stray keep
their wives happier in bed.
Here's
what was reported
"Researchers carried out a study of 400 couples and found evidence of increased sexual satisfaction in couples where the male member had affairs.
Chiara Simonelli, director of the Clinical Sexology Department in Rome, believes men get more confident after cheating and more able to satisfy their regular partner in bed."
Sounds
logical to me. They make love with more care to their wives
because they are guilty, or worried she might get suspicious if she
isn't satisfied and because they learn new techniques!!!
The
survey didn't say whether the wives knew about these affairs. If
they did and have got their husbands back, maybe something has changed
as a result of his straying. Perhaps the wife wins in the end? Who
knows. What do you think?
Will
you still want me - when I'm 65?
It
also interests me that the most common cause for cheating was fear of
ageing. I suppose if you are a man who is worried about ageing and
has a plastic-surgery mentality that many of us women have, then getting
to bonk young totty and toting it around in public might make you feel
more desirable. It might even make you get fitter, look after
yourself etc. However, I suspect that the object of desire is more
likely to be your wallet or your position of power than you!
I
suspect there are many women who would be happy with just having their
husband treat them as objects of desire and pay attention to their
needs. There are men who feel like that too. One guy wrote
to me from the States asking how he could get his wife to pay more
attention to him.
Sometimes
in the absence of comfort at home, some men feel the need to seek out
young totty to reaffirm their desirability. Might that have
something to do with men's primary driver that urges them to spread the
seed. Young totty is fertile, old is not! It might not even
be a conscious desire, but it can drive you into certain actions or even
mood changes. We don't know enough about it yet.
If
this is the case it might also explain the behaviour of women. If we are
still primed with our need for protection, then we'll be just as happy
with our husband being attentive i.e. giving signs that he is going to
stay around.
Older
women sometimes feel the pain of age. It's a choice but a rather
forced one when we are constantly being pressurised to be afraid of
age. One sign I saw in a shop window said 'Say no to ageing' What
are we all striving to live forever. I don't think so and anyway I'd
cripple myself trying to save enough money to last!!
Having
a young stud pay attention to us is simply a vanity thing. It's
the chicest of chic accessories on the Hollywood Scene. Old bags
with years of face-sag drawn tight into behind their heads and beneath
their chins, staring through their waxlike fixed features, slapped with
makeup learn to feel good because they have years of the knife and
a young stud on their arms.
Before
you jump to judge them, remember these women are probably getting LAID
the way they want to be laid and having a superb sex life. They
pay the bills, he goes down on you whenever you want and for however
long you want AND the rest! It's what men have been doing
with women for ever.
APRIL'S
SEX NEWS
This month we unveil a new hot pussy
cream, satisfaction promised, not yet guaranteed. There's
news of a new sex-exhibition in Sydney and some not so new news about
'ugly' men. And prudery has won the day again as Ryan Air's sexy
new ad is banned.
PUSSY
POTION
A year
after America scientists developed a
new pump and suck machine to increase sexual pleasure for
‘orgamsically dysfunctional women’ a cream which is said to
stimulate "greater orgasmic pleasure" has been launched in the
UK.
Thousands of American women are rushing to buy this ‘pussy potion’
and sales of VIACREME have topped £700 million.
Apparently, when applied to the clitoris creates a "cool tingling sensation that makes a woman
feel very warm and sensitive" that can last up to half-an-hour.
The makers also claim it can help induce orgasms in women who
weren’t previously able to come.
UGLY PARTNERS MAKE BETTER MATES
If
you’re ugly, you’ll be more faithful and do more to help your mate,
if you’re an insect-eating pied flycatcher that is.
This reminds me of a recent headline that announced big bottoms
are sexy [and if, like me you do have a big bottom, you’ll no doubt be
able to dredge up all kinds of ‘supporting’ research!!!].
The big bottom research was
based on studies done on baboons.
Great news if the research is
duplicated in humans. Unfortunately I don't think it has, so I've
done my own research and according to the men I've been with, big
bottoms are very popular!!! That'll do me nicely thanks. If
you have a big bum, work on adopting the very tempting belief that
big bottoms are very sexy, and you'll immediately feel sexy instead of
ugly when someone comments on the size of yours!!! If you don't know how
to do this, read my book 'Flirt Coach'. And now it's time for a short
commercial break!
Of
course the media latch onto this research and come up with headlines
like ‘ugly partners make better mates’.
I would have thought that’s pretty obvious and I can’t see
why some research on a few birds adds any weight to the argument.
As a society that judges people [rightly or wrongly] on their
looks, an ‘ugly’ man is not less likely to
WANT to stray, he just gets less opportunity!!!
BLOW ME
Ryanair
have had their bums smacked by the Advertising Standards
Authority. They've gone too far..
No, they haven’t suddenly won a new flight route to Australia,
but they have seriously offended 3 members of the public with their
latest advert.
Ryanair offered two return flights for £69 in the regional press under
the headlines "Blow Me! (These fares are hard to swallow!) and
"Satisfaction Guaranteed!"
Each advert featured two pairs of feet, one pair on top of the
other. I wish I'd seen them. Of the people who did have that
pleasure, three miserable sods complained.
Seeing
Red: What really pisses me off is that in
order to see the sexy side of phrases like 69, hard to swallow and
satisfaction guaranteed they have to have as 'so-called' dirty a mind as
the genius who dreamt up the ad in the first
place!!!
The Advertising Standards Authority considered the innuendos about oral
sex likely to cause "serious or widespread offence" and asked
Ryanair not to repeat the campaign.
Ryanair said the advertisements were published to coincide with
Valentine's Day, which was a celebration of relationships, and were
intended to be humorous within that context.
Good on you Ryanair. And to the 3 prudes who complained I can
only say go get a sexlife!!!
NATIONAL MASTURBATION MONTH – Safe
Sex promotion
If you want to promote your 'product' the secret is to create a national
day around it.
Good Vibrations, a San Francisco based organization [where else]
doesn't have a product, but they are devoted wholly to the art of
self-pleasuring, onanism, masturbation, wanking - call it what you
want.
Six
years ago GV created and started to celebrate National Masturbation
Month in May because they wanted to highlight the importance of
masturbation for nearly everyone: it's safe, it's healthy, it's free,
it's pleasurable, and it helps people get to know their bodies and their
sexual responses.
Good
vibrations say "Of all the kinds of sex people can have,
masturbation is the most universal and important, and yet so few people
talk about it freely--worse, many people still feel it is "second
best" or problematic in some way. National Masturbation Month lets
us emphasize how great it is--and how natural, and how common."
I agree
and that’s why I put it into my book, Flirt
Coach. Masturbating
is one very nice way to flirt with yourself!
And it’s one flirt that is guaranteed to get results and if not
there's always viacreme and viagra!!.
Only the wildest American mind could dream up a sponsored wank for
National Masturbation Day, May 6. The very first year of the
Masturbate-A-Thon they raised $8500! I think I'm going to set up
National Flirting Month in February, if someone hasn't already done so!
Perhaps we can have a sponsored flirtathon... ho hum!
SEX ON SHOW
Amsterdam
is known as the city of sex and drugs and rock and roll. Not sure about
the rock and roll but there's plenty of sex and drugs on offer. I'm not
a great museum and gallery fanatic but I couldn't pass up the
opportunity to visit the sex museum. After two hours wandering around
the exhibits, mainly due to my boyfriend’s determination to ‘do it
properly’, I realized that there is nothing that we are doing now that
wasn’t being done then. Sex is sex is sex.
What is
different now is that we are much more public about our sexual
activities. Along with sex
museums in most major cities in the world [not London unfortunately!] we
are now seeing sex-exhibitions springing up. And there's none more
public than our Aussie friends.
July
sees the opening of a four day Sexpo
in Sydney. It will be exposing - er exhibiting - all aspects
of health, adult entertainment, sexuality, and adult lifestyles. The aim
of the exhibition is to allow adults to access frank and accurate
information on all such matters, in one convenient location. Apparently
62,000 people visited the last one of which 40% were women.
V*G*N* A DIRTY WORD?
Writer
Susan Mitchell has been exploring our attitudes to the word ‘vagina’
which are not, according to her, in tune with the so-called liberal
times. Mitchell asks ‘Why
did one of the most experienced and world-weary interviewers of
entertainers and outspoken people, Michael Parkinson, visibly pale and
start to fiddle with his suitcoat button whenever Tracey Ullman, the
comedian, used the "V" word. Of course, as soon as she saw
that he was uncomfortable, she waxed lyrical about the problems of
"vaginal dryness". Parkinson twitched every time she said it.
He was perfectly content to talk about Dolly Parton's tits, but not
Tracey Ullman's vagina. Forget the war, just don't mention the
"V" word.”
According to Mitchell, when Cybill Shepherd was writing the scripts for
her TV series Cybill, the producers would not let her use the word
"vagina" in any context. She argued long and hard with them,
but they refused to budge. Oh
dear, we’ve a way to go it appears.
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