Flirting Academy - Speed Seduction
Speed Seduction - a review
Pussy Galore
Guys, if you have ever fixated on a woman and thought 'She's the one for me'.
Ross Jeffries will put you right. "There are 10 million vaginas in the world and
you think you can only get one - bullshit!"
By his own admission Ross Jeffries loves pussy. In fact several times during the
course of his first ever European Speed Seduction weekend, Ross talked lovingly
and longingly about missing his kitty. Any man that adores felines as much as he
does gains ten bonus points from me before he even begins. But when he stood
before 44 guys and 4 women Ross wasn't talking about the kind of furry companion
you find in a rescue home or pet shop.
Ross is not a great looking guy. Prior to the course I'd known him through the
internet for 3 years. We had never met in person but I'd seen pictures of him. I
thought he was pretty unspectacular [to be kind] in the looks department . As he
goes through the group pointing out who would be successful in internet photo
dating he laughs at his own failure to secure more than one date via this
method.
But such is the charisma and appeal of this man that after spending 3 days with
him, I ended up finding him highly attractive. I'm pretty fussy when it comes to
men and I admit that looks are a first draw for me. So if Ross can appeal to me
without the looks, then he's obviously doing something right.
I must admit that when I read lines like 'what sweet revenge' in his promotional
literature, I suspected a touch of misogyny. Ross disagrees. "It's just
marketing" he says, when asked about such classic lines in his brochures. "Ya
gotta do what ya gotta do to get attention!" It obviously worked judging by the
number of home study units he's sold over the years. And now for my own short
commercial break!
Out of hand and into bed!
Speed Seduction was born out of Ross's attempts to turn around his own sex
life He freely admits for many years he suffered severe pussy deprivation. Sex
for Ross was to quote him 'always in hand' . After studying with the masters of
persuasion, including Richard Bandler the founder of Neuro Linguistic
Programming [NLP], Ross cleverly adapted the principles of everyday hypnosis and
the cutting edge tools of NLP into powerful implements in the seduction process.
In the process he went from admiring the honey pot from afar to getting stuck
into and fully savouring it's sticky sweetness.
And before you girls dismiss this guy as a marauding womaniser, he freely
admitted that whilst he's having fun at the moment, he hasn't ruled out the
possibility of a long term relationship. After all, the guy has a lot of
catching up to do.
Guys attend this course because they aren't getting laid. And I don't blame
them. It's no fun knowing there's all that juicy pussy out there and you can't
have any of it. Whether you are just in the first throes of exploring your
sexuality or you are looking to develop a long term fulfilling relationship with
one woman, every male has sexual desires and wants to satisfy them not just in
their own company [fulfilling as it might be] but in the company of an female
[This course is designed for heterosexual males]
Reaching the parts looks fail to penetrate
If you are good looking getting laid, pulling, success with women should come
easily to you. But sometimes even the lookers just can't cut it with the babes.
and if you don't even have good looks in your favour, you too may be living in
pussy-free hell. So what is the magic process that prizes open the gateway to
pussy heaven?
Women like to feel as if a man is connecting to their soul or put in a less
frilly way, we’re suckers for a bit of 'romantic' pitter patter [Yes guys! use
this well and these words will become a self-fulfilling prophecy] . Chat up
lines like 'you must be made in heaven' aren't going to pierce the defenses of
sassy modern maidens. But if you can learn to make her feel connected to you..
you'll break down those walls of resistance and allow her to open up her
pleasure pathways as well as yours. Ross teaches guys to use powerful language
patterns adapted from hypnosis and create very deep [sometimes literally]
feelings of connection in women.
What a woman needs
Although this course is primarily for guys, there were a couple of other
women in the room. These feisty forty-something sisters had come all the way
from Miami to see Ross in action. One of them told me that as the mother of an
18-year old daughter she wanted to find out what her daughter might be exposed
to. This was no ordinary mother. Instead of sending her daughter to college she
was putting her through NLP training.
Gerry had studied NLP herself and recognizes the far reaching benefits of the
underlying skills Ross teaches but I suspect that most 'regular' women would be
more inclined to think of a speed seduction course as threatening. I don't. It's
true that this material can be used to manipulate weak people. But a knife can
be used to stab someone or cut bread. That doesn't mean that knives should be
banned. The best a trainer can do is to emphasize the need to use this material
ethically. I think Ross does a fairly good job here. When you realize that not
all women are bitches and use this material with integrity you will find it
easier to penetrate our defenses and allow us to feel more comfortable about
giving way to OUR natural urges.
And guys, remember that learning to seduce a woman is only half the story. After
you get us into the bedroom you have to deliver the goods. Once you've mastered
the art of seduction please please go out and buy books, tapes videos on female
sexuality and how to make great love to a woman and study them with as much
determination as you are studying this material.. If you do manage to get us
into bed, it's because we've been tempted by the menu, so don't serve up
hamburgers when you are offering us caviar and champagne. Here come the
commercials again..
Cold-call walk-ups
For many of these would-be seducers the number one fear is approaching a
woman for the first time. The first rule for 'cold-call seduction or 'walk-ups'
as Ross calls them, is getting yourself into the right state. The right state is
something like a designer cocktail of playfulness, humour, outrageousness and
engaging charisma. Students are encouraged to develop a sense of humour by
watching funny movies. They are told to think of walk-ups as an opportunity to
play and have fun like one of Ross's star pupils who managed to do 200
successful walk-ups in a week. He didn't get to have sex with all 200 women, but
he did get to talk to them without getting the old heave-ho. It's a start. Mr
Walk-Up Superstar apparently approached women of all ages, shapes and looks.
Like all skills, the more you do something the more habitual it becomes. I
encourage my students to see the world outside as a magical practice arena and
playground and Ross exhorts his students to do likewise. The practice started on
day 1. Some motivational courses get people to walk across hot coals as a
metaphor for turning fear into power. Ross gets his students to do something
outrageous with the same purpose in mind.. The people of Bayswater might be
forgiven for thinking aliens had landed when during the busy lunch period, 44
guys were rushing up to strangers with extended hands, pretending to be a
Martian called Manny! If the thought of talking to a stranger appears daunting,
this highly amusing exercise is a first step to exorcising that fear.
OK, it's great for getting the muscle working but in reality introducing
yourself as Manny the Martian might have a few girls laughing their stockings
off, but it's not the best of chat up lines. It was obvious that many of the
guys were looking for some great guaranteed-to- work scripted chat up lines.
They didn't get a chat-line manual, but Ross did give them a couple of very
useful clues on what sort of things to say, and as a woman I can tell you these
methods can work!. After giving them the sample line, Ross explained how it
worked. The line was
"Do you mind if I ask you an unusual question. Do you do some kind of spiritual
practice?
Apparently the words 'unusual question' are going to get the woman curious.. and
using vague generalised words like 'spiritual practice' encourages the woman to
find her own meaning. In California where most women are into something
'spiritual' be it yoga, colonic irrigation, crystals or tarot reading, the
chances are they'll be nodding their heads impressed with the perceptiveness and
sensitivity of the guy asking the question. Very clever stuff.
The 'great state' virus
Developing rapport with a woman is essential to the seduction process. Ross
showed the group how to gain this rapport using the classic NLP technique of
matching language. The first step is to ask a question that gets her into a
great state and lubricates her vocal chords as well. His recommended line is
'What is it about what you do that you find most fulfilling?'. I was the willing
demonstration subject and I found myself responding to the question with
passion.
As I talked about how much I love my work the powerful words and gestures flowed
freely. Ross then pointed out to the group my key phrases or 'trance words' and
how to use them back in such a way that the woman feels respected and important
and begins to think 'here's a man who can deeply understand my world'. When you
are intent on deepening your under-standing of pussy, penetrating and mirroring
the female psyche in this way can be a very potent technique!! And time once
again for a little breather!
Casanova Pavlov
One of Ross's basic methods is derived from an NLP technique called
'anchoring'. Anchoring works by first generating emotional states that are more
likely to get a woman to open out to sex. The group is asked to come up with the
kind of states they want to create. Curiosity, playfulness and desire all scored
high on the list. And the earlier mentioned question about fulfilment is one way
to generate these states.
The secret is to wait till the woman is at the peak of the particular state and
link it to a repeatable physical gesture or sound. The guys learn how to use
light touch [the neck was one recommended location] as they talk a woman into
feeling good. He calls this technique Pavlov's dogs for lovers. Advanced methods
include gesturing subtly towards your dick whilst using linguistic double
entendres such as deep connection, penetrating the soul etc. It's pretty
powerful when used well.
Giving compliments are also an important part of the seduction process. And
anyone who knows my work will know I am a great believer in compliments as long
as they are genuine. We all recognise when someone is bullshitting us. Ross got
me on this one. As he was talking to the group, I laughed. He looked at me deep
in the eyes and said 'You have a great laugh' Delighted that someone had been
insightful enough to recognize one of my many endearing qualities, I blushed and
said 'I know', and before I had a chance to recover from the good feelings he
dove in with the words 'It should be put on a micro chip and placed in an alarm
clock so I can wake up to it in the morning". Touche. He'd used the pattern on
me and left me feeling great but also impressed with his cheekiness.
Boyfriend - pah!
One of the standard 'totty' turndowns is 'I've got a boyfriend'. Ross isn't
put off by that either. He has created a 'boyfriend destroyer' language pattern
[a language pattern is a way of putting words together to create certain states
of mind and mental actions in another person]. As he says in his literature '
She's got a boyfriend already! So what, here's how to knock him out of her mind
so fast, it'll make your head spin and get her focused exclusively on you'. Of
course, once she is focused on you, I think you have to be able to come across
with the qualities she now thinks are missing in the boyfriend, else why should
she swap him for you?
Once you've successfully got the girl to agree to listen to you Ross has 'sexual
accelerator patterns' designed to and I quote 'bring her to dripping orgasm in a
matter of minutes'. I'm not sure about this one.. but I can imagine how used in
the right way, certain words could boost the sale of panty liners in women but
the journey from wet knickers to orgasm in a few minutes... I'm reserving
judgement on that one!
Learning to laugh as you learn
Ross, like me, has experienced the unique training style of Richard Bandler.
To an outsider Bandler sounds more like a demonic long haired hippy with painted
black nails doing a stand up comedy routine than a highly skilled genius
teaching the finer points of human interaction. What a lot of people don't
realise is that the comedy is designed to relax the learning sphincter so that
the trainer can easily penetrate the depths of the mind and thrust in a
bucketful of positive messages and learning points. Bandler calls this
unconscious learning. It is a very different approach to the rote learning most
of us have been subjected to in school.
Unconscious learning is great for big-picture people like me who are happy to
sit back and let it wash over me. Ross has chosen a teaching style that falls
somewhere between unconscious learning and step by step rote learning. To the
more anally inclined, who sit with pens poised waiting to take down every letter
of ever word uttered, Ross's stand-up comedy routine and apparent deviation from
the subject matter may be a little frustrating. But they are soon rewarded for
their patience when he has them taking down various language patterns word for
word. The purpose behind this is clear to me. Ross wants them to know HOW the
patterns work. The danger is that the detail merchants will see it as a ready
made script for pulling and this isn't, I suspect the intention of the teaching.
Step one two and STOP!
Ross is a Virgo and at times this shows through in his predilection for
detail. However, he's well aware of the dangers of detail-saturation. As he
recommends purchasing various tape sets , one guy puts up his hand and asks 'Do
we use these tapes in any particular order and can we listen to them at the same
time'. I laughed so stridently that despite being stuck up his own arse, the guy
must have heard me loud and clear.
Ross answered by asking him what he did for a living. I wasn't surprised to
discover our friend was an IT troubleshooter - a job that requires a fully
data-driven anal-ytical mind. A successful speed seducer has to balance the need
to know every bit of detail with the ability to let go and trust in the process.
I sense that the more data driven and detail-oriented you are, the more you're
going to have to work on your flow and ability to go with it.
Ross does make the important distinction between just teaching language patterns
and teaching HOW they work. The challenge is to reach that happy middle ground
between delivering so much information that the student becomes a walking
robotic notebook and so little that they end up wandering around in a hypnotic
trance unaware of what they are doing and how it works.
The potential for success that this course offers is enormous. Many guys who
have studied with Ross have racked up fantastic score rates with women. Great
results will depend on many factors. As anyone who facilitates other people
knows, some students are ready to take the leap after one session, others take
years.
[Incidentally the longest serving student of personal development of my
acquaintance happens to be tremendously detail oriented and very very anal. I am
sure that his constant need to scientifically prove it all has held him back. So
if this is you, beware!]
Super seducer or Puppy dog
I suspect that Ross's success is due to several other factors as well as his
ability to employ his own excellent techniques. He's very very funny, he has a
voice that I wouldn't object to hearing as I am led to hit the roof of sexual
ecstasy. His posture is superb ['take a yoga course' he chanted several times to
the group ]. He's made the most of his shortcomings [laser surgery so he can
ditch the 'four-eyes' look and working out at the gym has helped him develop his
once too skinny body into a slender athletic build] and above all he's got a
helluva lot of chutzpah [ask a jewish friend to explain!] and is totally
outrageous. Ross is also prepared to fail again and again until he gets a result
and he believes totally in his ability to succeed.
As I watched one guy being processed by Ross, towards the end of the course, I
thought to myself, this chap will never get lucky with the girls until he learns
to access and harness his sexual energy. He was jerking around like a
jack-in-a-box. It was as if his energy centre were located somewhere between his
shoulders and his chin instead of below his navel! I not only smelt desperation,
but was reminded of a desperately eager puppy dog. Puppy dogs are great to have
around, but they don’t exactly mirror the idea of steamy nights between the
sheets. When I'm sussing out men, my sensory radar is seeking out the quietly
growling tiger-like simmeringly earthy energy that turns me on.. Language
patterns are very powerful, but if a man is going to get my attention, he's
gonna have to send out that testosterone-laden signal that comes with confidence
and a well -grounded energy.
If you are not great looking or a complete klutz when it comes to women, this
course could be just what you need, provided you have developed the following
- A fantastic sense of humour [ability to laugh at yourself is vital]
- Good posture [and that reminds me I should take a yoga class again!]
- An ability to get in touch with your sexual energy and send out those
vibes
- A great sounding voice
- A go-for it attitude backed up by self belief and confidence.
If you don't get the results you want from Ross's course, and you are
following his instructions, it may be because you need to work on one of the
above. If that's the case, attending a flirting day or weekend could help you
in all these areas..and you can choose to Go to information on flirting
playshops now.
As I left the course I couldn't help asking myself 'how can women use similar
techniques to get men to commit'. When I find that answer, you guys had
better BEWARE because we'll be coming YOUR way with a vengeance!
